Wednesday, August 7, 2013

Placing a child for adoption....


So Shay and I just got home from our trip to Europe yesterday.  I have a pile of laundry that reaches Saturn, memories that will last beyond a lifetime, and a classroom that is screaming, "You are not going to be able to get everything ready with the amount of time you have and school starts next week!"  

Crazy how stressful ending a trip can become.....pictures etc. of our trip will be coming soon: We just need time to get life back in order and our pictures in order (I hope that makes since!).  I wouldn't be on here yet but I just had to document an experience I just had:

Yesterday, after my parents picked Shay and me up from the airport and fed us dinners so we didn't have to worry about preparing something, we headed down to Shay's folks to pick up our dog.  By the time we returned home I was DEAD!  I don't really remember getting in bed.  Then of course I woke up at 12:24 am thinking it was morning (Europe is an 8 hours difference from where we were at).  Of course I forced myself back to bed to try and get my body on the right time zone.
Now, after Shay left for work, I have been opening mail and starting the process of returning home from a vacation.  It will be a lot of laundry that is for sure.  In this process I checked my Facebook.  Wow, in 2 weeks a lot happens!  While scrolling through news feeds I came across the following link.  A really good friend of mine who has 2 biological children of her own shared it.  Since I know she has never started the adoption process...at least to my knowledge.... I was curious to see why she felt a need to share.  I am so glad I did!  My heart has been really full this last week with regards to adoption.  Being a potential adopted parent is a double edged sword.  Shay and I desperately want to have a family but are unable to do so the "traditional" way.  It is an extremely painful situation for us!  We have always wanted to be parents and raise children.  Yet, to want to adopt is also bitter in the fact that it breaks our hearts knowing that the birthparents are hurting.  Why would we want that?  We are fully aware that birthparents do "want" their child, can parent their child, and deep down struggle with the idea of placing, thus making it a very painful experience for us as well!  We have no desire to cause pain on anyone for any reason.  This situation makes me hurt deep in my heart!  Then I watched this video.  It answered some of my concerns towards the end....as an adoptive parent.  
Although, Shay and I are not sure when or if we will ever be parents in this lifetime.  I do know that if we are chosen that we will LOVE our birthparents and that there will be a reason why the child was placed with us.  Thanks so much for sharing this link with me Jamie!  It really touched my heart in a way that I needed it!


Please note that this is being shared as an answer to some of MY questions, not with anyone in mind or in anyway trying to persuade anyone either way in the adoption process.

Placing a child for adoption
In this exclusive interview, Tamra, a birth mother and adoption advocate, shares the beautiful story of her decision to place her son for adoption.